Dick and Jane are a couple just like you...or like the couple you aspire to be.  They are married, but not to each other.  Very much in love, they have nurtured and sustained a shadow marriage for over five years. 

They have experienced the threat of exposure, the complexity of hiding from family and friends, the coordination of stories, the avoidance of evidence, and all of the pitfalls that come with a discreet relationship.

They have also enjoyed all of the benefits of the relationship.  Emotional as well as sexual.  Appreciation, love, and a true partner to recreate with and lean on when necessary.

Dick and Jane's relationship went through every phase, and they understand the issues that you are facing and trying to resolve:

• An initial passionate relationship where his needs for sex and her needs for understanding, affection and intimacy were met.
• A stage of growth where they became more than lovers, but also best friends.  They became more important to each other than their primary partners.
• An "integration" stage, where their presence in each other's lives was carefully revealed to family so that there could be extensive and plausible interaction.

This third phase is the holy grail of affairs, and unfathomable by the majority of those in extramarital relationships.  Dick and Jane are experts!

And they are here to try and help you.

Please email them with your questions and experience.  All correspondence is strictly confidential.  However, because the challenges you face are shared by others, we'll post the questions and answers in the community forum after ensuring that names and locations are changed to protect the "innocent."  If you would prefer the interaction be kept private, please specify, but we encourage you to let others learn from your situation.

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