Affair! How to Manage Every Aspect of Your Extramarital Relationship with Passion, Discretion and Dignity

Affair is a thoughtful, detailed discussion of every aspect of considering, preparing for, beginning and conducting a successful and emotionally fulfilling extramarital affair, including advice, case histories, numerous first-person narratives, humorous anecdotes and step-by-step guidance for every facet of the process. Contrary to what the media like to portray, many of the major pitfalls are avoidable and an extramarital relationship can bring a person greater happiness and personal growth if properly managed. Affair shows how. Key sections include: Making the Decision to Have an Extramarital Affair, Planning and Preparation for the Adventure Ahead, Beginning Your Affair, Managing Stealth: Keeping Your Affair Private in an Unprivate World, Building, Strengthening and Celebrating Your Extramarital Relationship, and Accepting the Odds: Preparing for the Possible With Your Dignity Intact.

OSA reviewers found this to be one of the best, if not the best, books ever written on the topic and is a must read!

Judith Brandt’s THE 50-MILE RULE will show you how to safely stray. THE 50-MILE RULE gives men and women the information they need to make smarter decisions when pursuing sex outside of marriage (including the rule that spouse and lover should never live within 50 miles of each other). Discover who makes a suitable affair partner, the rules you must never break, when to call it quits, and what to do if you’re caught. With sensible facts that make a case for fidelity, as well as practical tips for having successful affairs, THE 50-MILE RULE is the ultimate handbook.

OSA reviewers found this book to be logistically interesting with many good tips though our own famous Dick and Jane live within minutes of each other and 50-Miles should be taken as a "notion," not a rule.

The author specializes in counseling "secret lovers" and those whose lives they affect. Here she relates stories of extramarital affairs, discussing how they "happen," offering suggestions for conducting a successful one and advice to the betrayed spouse. She maintains that an extramarital dalliance can improve a marriage, and can supply a betrayed spouse the incentive to work at wooing back the straying mate. Believers in marital fidelity are likely to be put off by the authors admonition to those considering an extramarital affair that they "need to be informed and understand what works best and what doesn't . . . people deserve to have the best experience they can."

OSA reviewers found this book to have a good balance, and realistically present the affair and it's affects.  Written more toward women, this book isn't as pro-infidelity as the ones above.

A world-renowned therapist, the author has treated thousands of men and women caught in the powerful drama over what to do when an affair reaches into their emotional lives.  Now, in When Good People Have Affairs, Kirshenbaum puts her unsurpassed experience into one clear, calming place.  She gives readers everything they need to cut through the thickets of fear, hurt and confusion to find their ways to happier, more solid relationships with the person who’s right for them. 

Kirshenbaum encourages honest answers to such questions as:
--What am I missing in my marriage?
--How do I decide between two people when it’s like comparing an apple to an orange?
--How do I decide to end my marriage, end my affair, or end them both?

She leads readers through six easy-to-navigate steps that will take anyone from anxiety to clarity.  When Good People Have Affairs will be a lifeline to any man or woman who feels caught between two lovers, and its insights are indispensable to anyone else touched by an affair.

Book Introduction:

"You decided to have an affair.  Moments are now filled with fantasies about meeting a mysterious stranger, rendezvous taking place in dark locations, stolen kisses and the promise of passion to come.  You may even have taken your first step and met someone. Maybe you’ve already managed a furtive tryst with a new partner.  Are you riding a wave of euphoria frantically planning your next date, or are you freaking out about getting discovered?  With this guide you will learn how to significantly and almost entirely reduce your chances of getting caught. Yes, here are helpful tips on how to have a “safe” affair, but it’s going to take preparation and a little knowhow.  Affairs can be dangerous, if not planned properly. This brochure will help keep your home and family intact while making the most of the affair.  Half the fun of an indiscretion is the spontaneity, but there’s much at stake, especially if there are people you love whose feelings and lives may be at risk. For this reason, you will be making some extensive changes in your life to accommodate your plans. To have a safe affair, you must think ahead. In short, you must be responsible or get out of bed!"

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Convince your spouse and friends that you are in one place when you are really somewhere else. These are the background sounds that you need to play while on the phone to help support your assertion that you are where you say you are.  This recording of 25 different sound environments make your alibi's believable!

Simply call from anywhere you have a CD player in the background; home, car, office, etc. Play the location background sound of your choice to "be" at that location.

The tracks are from 2 1/2 to 3 minutes in length. If you need more time, just hit the repeat button on your CD player.

Multiple sound environments.  See the list by clicking through to Amazon.com.  Not available in stores.